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This time I am gone share you something philosophical. When something is happing with you because of yourself or someone else that time rather than getting frustrated or panic or irritated just accept it, which will remove all burdens from your head, make you feel lighter & free. But acceptance is not that simple but not also less than any kind of happiness.
Few years back when I started doing treks from then till now I mate so many people who came on trek like coming for picnic but while doing trek they get exhausted, feeling tired and all blah blah blah. They didn’t accept that they came for enjoyment whatever it may be. The journey which started from their home itself when they left it. All moments during that journey like breathing fresh air in forest, hiking, drinking fresh water from falls, etc. This kind of enjoyment they forgot in their unacceptable mode.
Now hardest to accept when someone leaves you either by going out from the world to the heaven or by going out from your small world. So just respect their decision & time which they given to you. Because it’s not the end of your story, it’s just the end of their character’s role in your story.Just be greatful with them for teaching you some good lessons & say thank you thank you thank you so much. Finally don’t forget memories are good to visit but not to live in, so move on.
Some acceptances come in categories which creates anger within you. When your kid didn’t score marks expected by you in their exams & because of that you gets angry on them which starts building a wall between you and them. So rather than getting angry just accept that it’s not their choice, it’s yours let them be free from your desires & expectations. After that see them what’s their qualities & desires, help them to achieve that & feel the difference. Also there are some places when you chose something for yourself as serious as career path or as simple as your hair style. That time rather than getting distracted because of someone else what they will say & all cribbing’s. Just accept your decision fully & focus on in & prove it right. Here I remembered few lines in hindi दूनियाँ का सबसे बडा रोग क्या कहेंगे लोग !!! (Worlds dangerous disease is people talks on you). So to keep your happiness alive it is must to accept what you are & what you have.
A day before yesterday we were discussing on some matter happened in Pune that is last Sunday few trekkers from one of the adventure group get lost in Rajmachi Forest for few hours. So across all kind of networks like facebook, whats app, regional FM stations, print media it was the hot topic. In such way discussion was going on who’s mistake it was, who was responsible for it, ohhhhhh that group has tremendous strength & capable leaders then how could it happened & all. Suddenly one of my friend said those who missed were not seasonal/regular trekkers that’s why they were not able to get the orientations present on the path like red ribbons, rock towers, arrows painted on rock or tree branches.
Later thinking on that point in personal I realized something that I will explain here. I don’t know who’s mistake it was for that Sunday’s incident, but for sure everyone some or the other way shared the part of that mistake equally. Shhhhhhuuuuu I don’t want to discuss about it here I just wanted to focus on one point that everyone ignore just like that.
That is do which said not to do & ignore the indications / orientations regularly.
Human’s ignore so many indications in their day to day life just like that.
- Before every exam all use to say us study completely but what we do that is known to us & after exam we use to say it was out of syllabus & etc.
- People use to spit on the places where mentioned Not To Spit Here, over and above that action they spit in such amount that few days later that Not words get disappeared & it becomes Spit Here.
- On every Tobacco & Guthka packets danger sign & cause of cancers mentioned over there.
- On every Cigarette packet it is mentioned that Smoking Kills.
- Warnings mentioned on Liquor bottles that drinking alcohol may increases the risk of cancer.
- During traffic a red traffic sign either signals you to stop your vehicle or prohibits entry. Green:Green means go! A green traffic sign signals that you can proceed, or provides you with direction on where to proceed. Yellow: Yellow stands for caution. A yellow traffic sign serves as a general warning. Most of us don’t follow it & with us who is not even did anything will pay the price of it.
- At so many places boards are there noticing No Parking, No Entry, Even Odd Parking,One Way.
- Not even we only systems also ignore notifications like possibilities of natural disasters, terrorist attacks, riots & etc.
But have you ever thought about what cost you will pay if any ignorance you do or someone else around you does it. Like in trek if the person who is leading ignores this kind of indication all the group get lost in forest or in trek, that time rather than fighting, all the other members also have same qualities so you can also tell your opinion on orientations you see there. If some one doesn’t follow the guides instructions there he/she will also get lost & along with them the whole group will pay the cost of it in terms of time & impression in world.
Like even if you don’t drink or smoke, you definitely had words on it with your belongings who have such addictions. Why you suggest because you know even if that person is ignoring those things right now he/she will pay very huge cost for it in future. Their family will also pay his/her ignorance cost. Most of the replies come when I tried to notify them about future causes are like what will happen because of this much of small quantity or one cigar. Ya ya I know you don’t worry about me. But boss don’t you know continuously falling drop of water on big rock breaks it so why are you hurting the precious gift from god like body.
Some times when you break signals that time who is moving on correct notifications got injured because of you. when some roads or bridges got destroyed because of some or the other reason, that time people in system use to say we were not in system when it was built, but boss if any notice are there on its maintenance in past its your responsibility to work on them on time else ordinary people pays it cost.
So many things are their to tell. But I will conclude here saying one liner that is rather than walking like horse, just observe & feel your surrounding to build your future. Someone said beautifully your present work builds your bright future & applies in all aspects of life.
Two days before someone shared one video with me. Video looks like taken in some foreign conference & the speaker in the video cracked one joke on Indian attitude when money comes in picture. The joke is, once upon a time great scientist Einstein was travelling through airplane & there was Indian seating next to him. Then to pass the time Einstein asked to play one game with that guy & he said I will ask you one question if you fail to answer then you will give me 5 dollar & when you asked me question & I failed to answer I will give you 500 dollar, then Indian guy said fine. First Einstein asked the question & Indian guy failed to answer and gave 5 dollar to Einstein. After that Indian guy asked question tell me the thing which goes up with three legs & comes down with four legs, after thinking a lot Einstein failed to answer & gave 500 dollar to Indian guy and asked same question back to him. Then without thinking Indian guy forwarded 5 dollar to Einstein.
I don’t know in the above joke what he want to show either silliness of Einstein or Indian guy greed towards money or how their brains start running when money comes in picture. Yes partially it is true but for sure Indians have some very good qualities which comes from their heart & nothing else matter at that time. I am going to share few small small incidents in my life here & I am sure everyone of you one or the other way definitely had such experiences in your life too.
First is when I was traveling through public transport in six seater from waked to warje. Driver of that vehicle was looking like too much worried I don’t know for what may be for his family, for education of his children’s & provide two time full food to his family. In that tense condition most of the passengers shouting on him & he was getting more disturbed, I can able to see that clearly on his face. I don’t know what I felt at that moment & at my stop when I was getting down, I handover-ed the 100 Rs/- note to him, hugged him & told him don’t give back me the change just take some sweets & snacks to his children’s while going back to home.
Second incident happen when I was stuck in traffic at Nal Stop Signal. There few small child’s may be 7 to 8 years old was showing their experty in circus like adventures rather than begging for money or food. I loved their humbleness, fighting attitude against their condition, most beautiful thing in them was cute smiles on their faces that time also where they don’t have proper roof to live, food to eat, cloths to wear. They had a warm mesmeric charm on their faces & suddenly I took 100 Rs/- note and gifted them for their show & shook hand with so many blessings for their bright future.
Third time I was met with lovely incident & it happened with me recently. I was going to magarpatta city from new sangvi via khadki, on that way near to khadki station at signal one family child’s were selling the Pens to the daily travelers through that route. From them one child girl may be three to four years old was going towards every biker & car drivers asking them to buy her pens. Suddenly she came to me, after looking at her sweet face, without resisting my hand I just took 50 Rs/- note & given her & in return she gave me pen. That time because of her submissive smile & graciousness that pen was more than any Parker or Mont Blanc Pen. After giving her that note expressions on her face looking like she don’t know how much it is & she looked at her elder brother, I too followed her eyes & looked at her brother & just said have it no need to give back any change then he took more pen in his hand and forwarded to me, I just loved that honesty & reaction from him. I just stopped him & thanked him for the pen I got from his sister then the broad smile on their faces gave me one of the precious gift in my life.
I just want say here that this kind of people are also available in our country so rather than focusing on some drawbacks of our please focus on good things around. Rather than saying don’t see bad, don’t talk bad & don’t listen bad I would love to say See Good !!! Talk Good !!! & Listen Good .
For the first time in my life I heard the Dhol Taase Beats at Pune in 2008. Because of my classes I wasn’t able to attend any group play of Dhol Taase that time. I heard it on the way to my classes & feel the magic of it. That time within one month I left the Pune, so that wish of mine to visit any group play & listen it neatly remained uncompleted. Then after completing my graduation when i came back to Pune in search of job unintentionally again heard that sound of Dhol Taase. It attracted me towards it & stopped there itself why because that music enthralled me. There I collected some more information like where do I get to see different different group plays, where do I get the best performance/play & only one answer to all such questions I got is on Ganpati Visarjan go to Laxmi Road, Alka Chowk, Tilak Road. In 2011 I was fully focused on my job searching & interviews so I didn’t got the chance again.
Finally after getting job & regular work schedule in 2012, I ticked one of my dream that is roaming around all the Peth areas of Pune on Ganpati Visarjan Day, while enjoying the Dhol Taase Beats & other numerous things. Seriously I got real experience of one sentence on Pune “Ganesh Festival is like Diwali in Pune”. On every road in every lane there is Ganesh Mandal with so many of decorations, lightings & ultimate plays or dramas or views of some or the other ancient or western cultures or plays of Dhol Taase groups.
So finally on Ganesh Visarjan day of 2012 that is 29th September, I left the home at 10:00 AM in the morning, those days I used to live at Aple Ghar Society near Chandan Nagar Bypass. Via PMT buses I reached the Pune Municipal Corporation Depot at 11:30 AM due to huge traffic & from there rather than taking any transport I preferred to go by walk towards Dagdusheth Temple & my excitement came into reality in the form of crowd, so many dhol taase groups playing various tracks like “Sher Shivraj Song by Kavi Bhushan”, “Kaloa”, “Gajar”, “Nashik Dhol”, “Dholi Bajja” & so many with tremendous energy & happiness. Some guys from the group were playing the Zhanja & Tole. All were playing these instruments in a beautiful synchronization, the moves of their hands, there legs while walking or playing the Dhol, Taase, Zhanja & Tole was at exact same time. In one group there would be at least 100 to 200 members were there. Those who were not playing anything they are also contributing by providing water to those who are playing, by making border so that no one from outside will distract the play.
While plying it some guys were in different getups but attractive like full beard & long hairs looking like old time kings & on top of that Pheta which is looking like jewel in the crown. Some guys were playing dhols in full madness they were dancing along with it & simultaneously all this in synchronization too. After watching so many groups on Shivaji Road, NC Kelkar Road, Tilak Road, Kumthekar Road, Vasantrao Limaye Road, Laxmi Road. At last I decided to go ahead on the Laxmi road with Five Most Important Ganpati’s of Pune. Till that time one of my friend groups came there with me to see all that madness & enjoyment. From there I proceeded with them. The beats of Dhol Taase were making public crazy, one of that musical shocks was flowing through me as well & I was dancing, playing whistle & roaring all the way. Knowingly or unknowingly everyone was raising their hands in the air & vibrating it on the command of Dhol Taase leader like all were hypnotized by that Dhol Taase Music. In this entire craze how time went I don’t know & it was 7:00 PM in the evening, my friends said me they were leaving, I said fine I will stay here only till that time we were at Alka chowk, I was dancing, running & enjoying everything there. Suddenly I met with one of my group of friends & plugged with them. At 11:00 PM in the night they also left to their homes, after see off with them I stayed there till early morning 4:00 AM when Dagadusheth Miravnuk started, so many people there was waiting for that Miravnuk, some were took there mats with them to take rest on road itself. So after praying in front of Dagdusheth Ganpati I too left after living my small dream that day, with so many memories & some new dreams like next time I will also play the Dhol Tasse. That day I got little bit jealous on Pune Localized because to have this day in my life it took almost 22 years for me but those who born & brought up in Pune itself every year they enjoy this day.
In 2013 I was shifted to Kothrud Depot. Occasionally I used to visit the Sai Baba Temple at Karve Nagar Signal & during the month of June when I was there with my friend Shinu I saw the practice of Dhol Taase by Surya Pratishthan leading by Aniket Ambavle under the finance of Mr. Sandip Pendse. The board present there about new entry is ongoing clicked my dream to join Dhol Taase. Then instantly I went towards him & asked all my queries like practice schedule, trainers & etc. From the next day itself I started practicing under their guidance. How the practice & all performance went for the first year will explain in next write-ups.
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